Monday, March 21, 2011

Words on Happiness Volume I

Barnes and Noble


This short book explores tips for happiness. Happiness here is not defined as enjoyment, pleasure, or warm fuzzies. Instead, happiness is the realization that life provides times of laughter, joy, and solace. But, it also provides times of neutrality, pain, and battle. Sometimes the battle scars are so deep that we should rightfully not have survived to tell our stories. Happiness is the acceptance of all these times and the courage to live through them.


Words on Happiness:

Walk in the other guy's shoes. Before you do, sanitize them so you don't get foot fungus. After you've walked a mile in them, give them back, and respect that he might not be willing to walk in yours yet.

Give of yourself. When you die, what you've held back will be forgotten, but what you've given will be remembered by all those whose lives you've touched.

Most people act out of a desire to have their wants and needs met. They do not act out of vengeance or specifically to hurt you. If you are hurt in the process, realize that it's probably easier for the them to ignore the pain you're feeling than to deal with their own issues.

When you speak softly and carry a big stick, try not to do so in the house of someone who keeps a loaded pistol near his/her bedside.

When upset, make sure to tell the people you're talking with afterward whether or not you're looking to vent your frustration or for them to help you fix your problem. Your friends need guidance for when to listen and when to speak.

Deliver the goods you've promised. If you can't, chocolate always helps to smooth things over.

Keep your sense of awe and wonderment.

Spend time near flowering trees.

Root for the underdog, but don't necessarily place a bet on them with anything other than Monopoly money.

Hold your friends close, your enemies closer, and your family closest.

Smile, even when you don't feel like it.

Allow yourself anger, frustration, sadness, despair, envy, bitterness, etc., but schedule a time to end those things so that you can again feel hope.

What isn't said speaks as loudly as what is said.

Make time to ponder and reflect.

Own a teddy bear to hug when you're down. People are great for hugs, but teddy bears aren't ever too tired or too busy for a good squeeze session.

Sunday, January 30, 2011

A New Direction for This Blog

Very shortly, I'm going to be changing the direction of the posts I take on this blog. I haven't been writing here simply because the things I've been learning in general probably aren't of much use to anyone. I have been learning a lot of things lately about self publishing, though.

So, for the forseeable future, my posts will be related to self publishing. I will soon be putting up some of my covers and be talking about my upcoming works. If you have been following this blog in the past and are not interested in self publishing, particularly within the field of erotica or erotic romance, you may want to unfollow.

I have kept my writing life separate from this blog for a long time because I know that erotica and erotic romance isn't for everyone. I respect that some people simply don't like reading it or don't want to read about it. But, since this is my blog and I have been learning a great deal lately, I'm going to proceed in the way that I feel is going to be most beneficial to myself personally and to my readers in general.

So, be forwarned that this blog will turn into something that may quickly become NSFW due to the cover images I will be placing within the posts and also on the sides menus.

Monday, January 10, 2011


I now realize I read ebooks almost twice as fast as paper books. I can read at the gym and make the text larger while I'm on the cardio equipment. My book light works well in the movie room at the gym too. I find myself reading on my cell phone when I find a spare minute here or there...

I think I might be getting eye strain, though, because there are some days in which I read for pleasure for twelve or more hours per day.

That might also be the reason I've neglecting my blogs lately. I've been absorbed in some really great fiction reading lately.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Weight Loss Trick

One thing that I've struggled with but that has been immensely effective for me in my weight loss journey is to allow myself to splurge one day per week without feeling guilt over it.

No, this doesn't mean that all day I eat whatever I want to the point of gorging myself, though I do have days when this happens. When I'm on vacation, I do eat whatever I want for one day of the vacation.

I have had to learn to let go of the notion that food and guilt are related to each other at all. I have yo-yoed over and over again because I've thought that if I "blew it" for the day that I might as well eat and eat and then just start over the next day. Only the next day doesn't net better results.

Instead, I have to remember that food is my friend, not my enemy. I need it to live. As a result, if I splurge and actually plan my splurging in advance of doing it, I don't feel guilt.

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Yes, I'm Still Alive...And Much Thinner

I haven't posted to this blog in a considerable amount of time. It seems I have a difficult time focusing my energies on more than one task at once. During these past few months, I've been on a weight loss journey. I'm almost at my goal weight, and even if I don't lose the remaining 10 pounds, I'm pretty happy with the journey. I'm fitting into smaller clothes then I ever have and had had anticipated I would even after hitting my goal weight.

In March when I became serious about losing weight, I was in a size 18. I'm now in a size 8. I've lost 40 pounds total.

The method I've used to lose the weight is exercise and healthy eating. I'm not on a diet. I have use a couple of simple rules that govern how I eat most of the time.

Eat only when I'm hungry

Stop Eating when I'm satisfied

Most of what I eat is food that looks like something my great grandparents would recognize as food (ie, less artificial colors, flavors, sweeteners, processed food, etc.).

Exercise most days of the week

So, what I'd like to share in a few blog posts are things that have made the whole journey easier for me. Today's lesson I've learned is that when I'm in the grocery store, I tend to stick on the outside aisles where the fruit, veggies, meat, and dairy are. When I need to cut through the aisles to get to the cash register, I pick the pet food aisle or greeting card/cosmetics aisle to get from one side of the store to the other. That way, I'm not tempted to buy cookies, chips, etc.

Monday, April 26, 2010

Urg! Veggies

I've learned not to buy a bunch of perishable food the week before going on a week long, out of state vacation. I didn't eat nearly enough of it and half of it that I couldn't eat went bad before I came back.

The asparagus, in particular, was really nasty, as were the portabello mushrooms. I should have known better, but I was overly veggie zealous.

Saturday, February 6, 2010

Kroger and Shell Gas

**I don't get paid to write stuff like this...**

My coworker told me the other day that Shell stations have an agreement with Kroger. I don't know if this is local to Nashville, but I scanned my Kroger Saver's Plus card in the credit card reader of the pump at a Shell gas station before swiping my credit card. It saved me ten cents per gallon. My receipt even said that I saved ten cents a gallon from doing it. So, my gas price went from 2.55 to 2.45. It even took the price down on the reader above the grade of gasoline when I pressed the 87 button.

Made my day!

Sunday, January 3, 2010

3D Avatar

I recently saw my first 3D movie, Avatar. I enjoyed the movie a lot, and would consider going to it again. (No, I'm not some paid spokesperson that I have to disclose with these new laws regarding bloggers).

I had to wear the special glasses over the ones I normally wear. I have a bit of a small nose, so they barely fit.

Call me old fashioned, but I was expecting to the the 3D glasses where one lens is red and the other blue. I was wondering when this changed?

Also, I felt a little sick to my stomach during the movie, but I wasn't sure if it was from the 3D effects or something else. I did enjoy the 3D aspects of the movie, and I thought Avatar was a good one to try it out, though it was a bit expensive.

Friday, October 23, 2009

Recipe for Spaghetti Squash

I got this from

1 spaghetti squash
2 tbsp. butter

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

Cut squash in half lengthwise. Remove seeds. Spread butter over each half. Place flesh side down on cookie sheet. Bake 1 hour. Using spoon, loosen flesh into spaghetti-like strands. Serve with pepper and butter.

I served this with spaghetti sauce over it after pulling the squash onto a plate.

We first tried eating it without the spaghetti sauce, but it was pretty tasteless with just the butter and pepper. After adding the sauce, it tasted just the pasta. The texture is similar to angel hair. This is a dish I would make again in a heartbeat, though it was too much food for the two of us. Next time I'm going to only cook half of it and try wrapping the other half for cooking the next day or two days later. I imagine cooking it all and then reheating wouldn't be very good.